I did a lot of embarrassing, cringey shit when I was younger, but probably the most shameful was my habit of making excuses, shifting the blame and passing the buck.
When I came up short in life — didn’t get the job, got dumped, got a bad grade, etc — it was always someone else’s fault. They didn’t get it, they were out to get me, I was doomed from the start because of [bullshit excuse here]… you get the idea.
And the reason I’m so horrified that I acted like this is because it’s the ultimate in self-defeating, self-limiting thinking — it’s the epitome of a loser’s mindset and I can only begin to imagine how much I held myself back because of my small-time, defeatist attitude.
Why? Because it’s effectively giving up control of your life. When you shift the blame for your failure and cite things beyond your control, what you’re really saying is that you don’t control your life as a whole… you’re saying that you’re just a pawn, adrift on the waves of fate — and frankly, that is pure, grade-A bullshit!
A year or so ago, I made the conscious decision to own anything and everything in my life: successes, failures, and everything in between — and it’s made a CRAZY difference! The moment I made that choice — the choice to take complete and total ownership of my life — I felt more empowered and free than I have in years.
The idea is very simple: stop making excuses and stop blaming other peopleor things that are beyond your control for your failures, fuckups and shortcomings. OWN those, and you will own your entire life.
If your reaction to reading the above is to sputter “B-but [excuse here],” then I suggest you watch the video again — I promise you that once you make the choice to own your life, you’ll want to go back in time and punch yourself in the face just like I did 🙂
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